I rarely hear women accept they’re dumpster humans, call it emotional honesty, and shit on you by expecting you to accept that they’re never going to change.

I’m not accusing all men of this as I have heard many dumpster human women speak this nonsense, but it seems to be a trait heavily considered “emotional honesty” in many men.

It reminds me of Popeye. “I am what I am.” That sounds like integrity, at first. That “integrity,” in the hands of a narcissist, will make you doubt yourself 11 years later at 0216.

It’s not an honest trait. It’s a trait narcissists use to continue gaslighting you with torturous, belittling, bullshit.

“It feels like home,” when working on shortcomings is a part of your dynamic. If you are constantly adapting for a person who doesn’t treat your emotions with the kid gloves your emotions deserve, it may not be the right home.

Narcissists will try to convince you your tears are emotional blackmail. They will NEVER even check their account balance to pay the ransom.

“I’II work on that,” is what integrity looks like.

“Emotional honesty,” can often be code for, “if you hear this one time, you should believe the words the first time, as you will hear it for the rest of that relationship.”

Heed this warning. You will be gaslit until you no longer recognize who you are, what truth looks like, and how not to flinch when the garage door opens.